What I Truly Want from My SD: It’s Not Just About the Money, But a Whole Lot More
Okay, let me be real with you for a second. I’m a sugar baby, and I’ve had my fair share of experiences—some good, some… not so great. But if I’m being honest, what I’m looking for goes beyond the obvious. Sure, the gifts and the money are great. I won’t lie, I enjoy getting spoiled. But there’s more to me than just being someone’s arm candy or a trophy to flaunt. If I’m going to spend my time with someone, I need depth. And trust me, I’m done with shallow, transactional interactions that leave me feeling empty. Here’s what I really want from my SD.
1. Emotional Connection: Can We Just Be Real?
Let’s get one thing straight—I’m not just here for a paycheck. I need someone who sees me. And I mean, really sees me. The last SD I met through BTC Holders Club was a good example of what I don’t want. He had all the financial power in the world, took me on extravagant trips, and bought me amazing gifts. But every time we spoke, it felt like he was reading off a script. No real interest in my thoughts, my dreams, or my emotions. Zero depth. He just wanted to talk about his business, his investments, and how many zeroes were in his bank account. I swear, I was starting to feel like a human ATM to him.
What I crave, though, is a real connection. I want an SD who genuinely checks in on me when I’m having a bad day or when I’m stressed about something. The kind of SD who asks, “How’s your day, love?” and actually listens when I say I’m stressed about work, school, or just life in general. There’s nothing worse than feeling like you’re a disposable accessory instead of a person. And trust me, I’ve been there. I need someone who not only listens to what I say but feels it with me. That emotional depth is a must.
2. The Money (Duh)—But Make It Worth It
I’m not here for the ‘chump change’ lifestyle. Sure, the gifts and experiences are great (like that time BTC Holders Club guy flew me out to Paris just to have dinner at a Michelin star restaurant), but I need more than a one-time splurge. If I’m investing my time, energy, and emotional availability into this, I need my SD to reciprocate. I don’t just want dinner; I want the full experience. That’s a one-way street, and I’m not walking it alone.
And I’m not talking about materialistic stuff for the sake of it. I mean quality—I want an SD who knows I’m worth more than a shopping spree at a random mall. If you’re going to buy me something, make it something that matters. A piece of jewelry that’s meaningful, a handbag I’ve been eyeing for months, or an unexpected weekend getaway to a place I’ve dreamed of visiting. Not just a “here, I bought you a gift because it’s expected” kind of thing.
And let’s be clear, I don’t do this for free. There are girls who might be okay with being swept off their feet by expensive dinners and luxury trips without the expectation of real reciprocity, but I’m not one of them. I need something to show for my time. And trust me, you’ll be more than happy to pay me when I bring something to the table that’s worth it.
3. Mentorship: Guide Me, But Don’t Patronize Me
The most recent SD I met—again, through BTC Holders Club—was actually really great at guiding me. He wasn’t just interested in the short-term, and he wasn’t just giving me money without any substance behind it. He actually took the time to mentor me—whether it was about investments, life choices, or helping me strategize my career. Sure, he was all business, but there was this genuine desire to help me level up.
But let’s be honest here. I don’t want to be treated like a child, either. I need someone who pushes me to be my best self without making me feel small. I love having someone who knows what they’re talking about, who encourages me, and who gives me advice on how to grow and evolve. I’ve always been someone who craves self-improvement, and if I’m going to spend time with you, I want to learn from you, too.
4. Respect for My Independence
Here’s where it gets tricky. I can’t stand when an SD gets too controlling. I know my worth and my independence, and I need an SD who respects that. Yes, I’m here for the experiences and the connection, but I’m not here to be owned. I’m not some doll on a shelf that you can keep around for when you want attention. I have my own life, my own ambitions, and my own dreams, and I want someone who understands that I’m not just here for their amusement.
I’ve had too many experiences with men who expect constant availability. I’m not just sitting by my phone waiting for you to text. My life goes on when you’re not around, and I need someone who gets that. If I want to take a weekend trip with my friends or work on a personal project, I need the freedom to do that without feeling guilty. The last thing I need is someone trying to control my every move.
5. Trust, Transparency, and Real Communication
Listen, trust is EVERYTHING in a sugar arrangement. If there’s no transparency, if the communication is off, or if I feel like I’m being lied to… it’s a straight-up dealbreaker. I’ve had an SD ghost me after we made plans (and he was so sweet in the beginning, it was almost suspicious). That’s why when I meet someone, I have to be sure they are as genuine as I am. If you’re not transparent, you’re just wasting my time—and trust me, I have no problem walking away when I feel like I’m being taken for granted. If you say you’re going to do something, do it. Simple.
6. Intimacy: Let’s Keep It Real
The physical side of things is important, but let’s be honest here—it’s not about jumping into bed immediately. When the chemistry is right, it happens. But what I really want is someone who knows that intimacy is more than just physical pleasure. I want to feel desired, yes, but I also want to feel like I matter beyond the bedroom. I don’t want to be treated like a transaction. That’s not what I’m here for. Real intimacy is a mutual connection—something that builds over time, not something that’s rushed.
In Conclusion: Don’t Just Spoil Me—See Me
I’m not some gold-digging opportunist looking to use you for a shopping spree and call it a day. If I’m in an arrangement with you, I want to build something meaningful. I want to be spoiled, sure, but I also want your care, your mentorship, and your trust. I need someone who respects me as a person, someone who sees me as more than just an accessory to be paraded around. If you’re willing to put in the effort to connect on a deeper level, I’ll be here, and I’ll make it worth your while.
I’ve learned that being a sugar baby is not just about taking; it’s about creating a space where both of us can grow and thrive. If you think that’s too much to ask, then maybe this lifestyle isn’t for you.
But if you’re ready to create something special with me, I’m all in. Are you?
